|Ethnic Background||Italian||Irish, German, Polish|
|Education||MSW||BA (Pursuing an M.Ed.)|
|Profession||Therapist & Program Director||Second Grade Teacher|
Hello! We are John and Robert, welcome to our page. We met in 2011 on a dating site. We talked for a week before we had our first date. It was a cold Saturday in December and the town was celebrating SantaCon. In a sea of red hats and white beards we found our soulmate in each other. Later we’d share the story of that night and describe how everyone in the room seemed to disappear while we talked into the early morning.
In 2014 we bought our first home. It was the first time either of us had ever lived with someone other than family. It was as easy as the conversation the night we met. A year later, on New Year’s Eve, we got engaged!
We got married in August of 2017 at the townhall. The ceremony was followed by dinner on the ocean. We began our life together as husbands surrounded by twenty of our closest friends and family.
Our upbringings were full of family and religious tradition. John attended Catholic school through twelfth grade, while Robert accompanied his mother, a religious education teacher, to weekly mass. We were raised to value marriage and family, and we began talking about having a family of our own early in our relationship.
We currently identify as agnostic and don’t practice a religion. When it comes to raising children, we hope to be honest and open. We want our child to choose their own path and will help them navigate this when the time comes. For us, that means exposing them to as much as possible, when it’s appropriate, should they become interested in the establishment of a religious identity.
Our current family make-up includes two dogs, Rusty and Finn. Rusty is a 13 year old Schnauzer-Poodle with special needs who lost his vision in 2016. Finn is a 3 year old Jack Russell rescue from Georgia. Both have been raised around children. We like to think the boys make our house a home and will someday make excellent big brothers.
We really enjoy working on our home. Since purchasing the house in 2014, we’ve updated just about every room. We also love working in the yard, with regular breaks for games of fetch with Finn.
Outside the home we enjoy spending time with friends and family. Every Sunday is spent at John’s parent’s home for dinner with friends and family including our 3 year old niece, Lea. In the summer months this means boat rides on the bay and swimming in the pool. We enjoy getting caught up on each other’s weeks and watching Lea grow-up. She looks forward to seeing her Uncle Johnny and Uncle Robby too!
When we’re not working around the house or spending time with family we enjoy dining out, catching a movie or daytrips to nearby museums, parks and beaches.
We believe openness in adoption is powerful and important. It can provide peace of mind to everyone involved. For birth families, openness validates that the best decision was made through regular updates. The child is raised knowing the individual(s) who selflessly chose adoption for their best care. And the adoptive parents, have a chance to express their ongoing gratitude to those that helped grow their family. The level of openness can vary depending on a birth family’s comfort. We are both comfortable with email contact to exchange photos and updates and annual visits.
As a teacher and social worker, we both work with individuals and families from all backgrounds. Rob teaches in a nationally recognized school of good character where qualities like fairness and understanding are taught alongside math and science. John has counseled families of all races and ethnicities. Our professions require a level of cultural competency. In our personal lives, we have family and friends that are just as diverse.
We believe all children should learn about diversity and inclusion. If we were placed with a child whose ethnic background was different from our own, we would make sure to expose our son/daughter to positive role models of their same ethnicity. We also feel participating in cultural activities, reading books, watching movies and a connection to their birth family would help promote ethnic pride.
|Childhood memory||Spending holidays with extended family||Playing Schoolwith siblings|
|Quote||“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” -Martin Luther King Jr.||Kind people are the best kind of people.” -unknown|
|Subject in school||Art||Math|
|Bedtime story||The Giving Tree||Chicken Soup with Rice|
|Dessert||Ice Cream||Milk and Cookies|
|Gadget||MacBook Air||Google Home|
|Mac or PC?||Mac||Mac|
|Coffee or Tea?||Coffee||Coffee|
|Eat in or Dine out?||Dine Out||Dine Out|
|Early Riser or Night Owl?||Night Owl||Early Riser|
We know you are facing one of the toughest decisions you will ever have to make. We admire you for considering adoption. We know that no one comes to this option easily. It is the decision to put your child’s needs ahead of your own wants. In doing so, you’ve proven what it means to be a great parent. We promise to remind our child of that every day.
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