|First Names||Amy||Thomas (Tom)|
|Religion||None (Raised Catholic)||None (Raised Catholic)|
|Ethnic Background||Irish, Italian, Polish, English, Scottish||Italian, Balkan (unclear because I’m adopted)|
|Education/Degree||B.A. in Journalism; Masters in Graphic Design||B.A. in Journalism|
Hello! We are Thomas (Tom) and Amy, welcome to our profile! We met in 2008 when Tom got a new job at a magazine company where Amy worked. He was drawn to her style and confidence; she was drawn to his friendliness and intelligence. We started dating soon after, and discovered we had a lot in common: a love of travel (we took our first trip together to Europe in 2009), a passion for cooking and baking, and the desire to try almost anything new – especially with each other!
On one of our trips – this one to Savannah, Georgia – Tom proposed (spoiler: Amy said yes). We got married in 2012 and flew off to New Zealand for a three-week adventure. We’ve never stopped traveling, even if it’s as simple as a long weekend down the shore. Always creative, always curious, we look forward to sharing these special moments with our first child.
Amy is the youngest of four children. Her parents are still happily married after 46 years. Her dad is a retired university biology professor and her mom is a retired pediatric nurse. They now look after their three grandkids, travel, and volunteer with their Catholic church. Her father also volunteers at the local zoo. Amy’s family all lives in New Jersey within 30 minutes of each other. Amy’s three nieces and nephews love hanging out with each other and they can’t wait for another kid to play with! In addition to Christmas and Halloween, St. Patrick’s Day is a big tradition in Amy’s family, celebrating her mother’s Irish heritage.
Tom is one of two children – both adopted! His sister, Christine, is only eight months older. His mom is a retired OB/GYN nurse, and his dad still works in the insurance industry. They all live less than an hour away in New Jersey, and his parents are so excited that Tom and Amy have chosen to adopt, just as they did more than 30 years ago.
Our cat, Esti, joined our family in 2012, after fostering her for a short time and falling in love with her. She is 11 years old but is still spunky and curious: she loves to climb onto the windowsills, curl up with us in bed at night, and lick anything plastic. We call her our cat child.
We’re both into healthy living – eating organic foods, doing yoga and meditating, and being environmentally conscious. Tom has an organic garden plot in town and likes to run competitive races. Amy enjoys doing DIY craft projects and cooking elaborate meals (with a little help from Tom!).
We live in a small, quiet apartment building. Our neighbors are diverse and include several families with kids. The kids all play together on the lawn outside.
Our town is a great place to raise a family. There are great schools, progressive-minded people of all backgrounds and religions, and plenty of culture – an art museum, a concert venue, even an annual film festival. There are beautiful parks and playgrounds nearby as well.
We’re so grateful you’ve taken the time to get to know us a little better. We hope you want to meet us to learn more about us, and about what kind of parents we aspire to be for your child: open-minded, supportive, and above all, unconditionally loving.
While we are private people, we would love to keep in touch through Family Options as the child grows up, including sending regular photos and notes, and attend the annual picnic so you can share in the child’s growth too.
We look forward to learning about who you are, and about the kind of life you would like for your child.
Our neighborhood and building are diverse and inclusive, and we have always lived in neighborhoods like that (from Baltimore, to the Clinton Hill neighborhood of Brooklyn, to Jersey City). We feel comfortable around other races and cultures because that is how we were raised – to treat everyone equally. We have family members and friends of other races. We aren’t saying we’re color-blind, but we come from a place of equality and open-mindedness. We like to learn about other people and their cultures, including food, music, clothing, social mores, etc. We try different things. We like to travel. For us, it is just a regular part of our lives.
We also see the importance of having mentors/elders of the same race or culture as our adopted child. They will be able to educate our child and answer any questions they might have about their background. We think it’s important to regularly have contact with kids and adults who “look” like them and have the same background or even the same type of adopted and race experience. Thankfully, the town we live in has many families who have adopted and who are of different races, so there will be that support system both for us and for our child. The local schools are similarly diverse, as are the churches, restaurants, and other cultural institutions.
|Quote||“Orandum est ut sit mens sana in corpore sano” (“You should pray for a sound mind in a sound body”) - Juvenal||“You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” - Mary Tyler Moore|
|Magazine||Wired, GQ, National Geographic||Every Day with Rachael Ray, New York, Us Weekly (my guilty pleasure)|
|TV show||Bob’s Burgers, The Great British Baking Show||Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Great British Baking Show|
|Movie||About a Boy||Home Alone|
|Dessert||Any sweets (Amy calls me the Cookie Monster)||Chocolate cake|
|Bedtime story||Where the Wild Things Are||The Giving Tree|
|Sport to watch or play||Soccer, baseball||Rugby|
|If your life was a theme song what would it be?||“I Wanna Dance with Somebody” by Whitney Houston||“The Only Living Boy in New York” by Simon and Garfunkel|
|Mac or PC?||Mac!||Mac!|
|Coffee or Tea?||Both, but I enjoy a good shot of espresso the most||Both. My favorite is a Dirty Chai- chai tea with a shot of espresso|
|Eat in or Dine out?||Eat in – I love our time in the kitchen together||Eat in: Tom and I are accomplished home cooks, and I make a mean breakfast.|
|Early Riser or Night Owl?||Night owl||Neither!|
We know this isn’t an easy decision for you; Tom is an adopted child himself, and we understand and take very seriously the awesome responsibility of becoming adoptive parents. We hope that by sharing our lives with you here that you will see in us a loving family who can provide your child a welcoming, supportive, and nurturing home.
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